Things you should talk on a First Date with your Special Someone

The term ‘first date’ brings forth a sense of excitement. First dates can make people feel anxious about various things like how to interact, what to wear, where to meet, and a bazillion questions and thoughts are running through our heads.

What makes a perfect first date? What are the best icebreakers and conversation topics that you can use to interact freely with your date? Don’t worry yourselves with such thoughts and let us handle it for you. Listed below are things you can talk about on your first date with your special someone.

To make sure that the conversation flows freely, the most important part is to ask questions. They make your partner realize that you’re interested in knowing about them and at the same time it prevents awkward silences.

• Ask about what makes your partner different than the crowd, despite being a cliche move, this question helps in finding quite a lot of information about your partner and you can find common grounds or interests to talk about.

• Another interesting conversation starter could be random would you rather questions, this is a speedy way to find common grounds and can keep the conversation going on for quite some time.

• You can also interact with your partner about their ambition, their work profile, what they wished to be as a child, what their current goals and dreams are. There’s a lot to unpack with this question.

• Asking your date about their pet peeves is also a nice icebreaker, this helps you in understanding what topics to avoid, and you also get to understand what sort of personality they have. Are they more easygoing or are they strict?

• The best icebreaker, that could make you and your date smile, and allows you to continue an easily flowing conversation is to ask them about their embarrassing moments, things that they felt were silly now but were embarrassing to them at the moment happened.

• You can ask various other questions which could lead to small talk or a full-blown conversation depending on the fact that you’re able to find a mutual interest. Ask your date about their favorite places to be at, the important people in their life, their proud moments, or their hobbies.

Ask what you feel comfortable in asking your partner, but the most important part is to be stress-free, be present at the moment, interact with your partner, listen to them sincerely, let them know through your presence that you’re interested in them. And all will be well.

Now other than asking questions, you can also interact about yourself, don’t just focus on unraveling your partner, show them that you’re capable of sharing yourself and you do not hide behind a curtain.

Everyone wants attention but at the same time, people also want to feel like they’re trusted. Sharing your experiences and life makes them feel as if you trust them with their stories and life in general.

• Talk about your hometown, tell stories about your childhood and how you grew up? What was the environment like, did you have an easy childhood, how were you as a child? Let your partner know such details while asking them about their experiences at the same time.

• Share your hobbies and interests with them. Let them understand that there are things you’re passionate about. Let them listen to your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. Tell them briefly about your journey and ask them about theirs.

• Interact about your favorite movies, shows, or books. Share what your music interests are like, which artist you love to follow. Tell them your traveling plans, or the places you have been to in the past.

Other than these generic conversation starters and topics to talk about, The most important thing during a date is to enjoy yourself. Let the other person feel happy in your presence. Don’t try too hard.

• Make it seems effortless, while actively listening to them as well as talking to them. Do not just talk about yourself and do not just listen to them. 

• Put forth your views and points, start debates about lighter topics, do not breach personal topics, and try to be cautious about their personal space. 

• Some people are very introverted and do not like to interact much, let them open up at their pace, accommodate yourself according to their preferences, and let your partner feel a sense of comfort around you. 

• Try to be a subtle presence around them rather than an intimidating one. 

• Do not demand things and let your partner enjoy. Do not be excessively touchy towards your date, because not everyone likes such behavior. 

• Keep in mind to use respectable language, even if your date might not mind cursing it gives a bad impression if you do it on the first date. 

• Be respectful about their financial requests and if they wish to split the bill, do it. 

• Be polite with your compliments, do not comment unnecessarily on their body or dressing style.

Remember to not put excessive pressure upon yourself just because of the date. The date can be virtual or a face-to-face one. Be mindful of your environment. Here are some ideas for a first date, if you’re meeting in real life.

• You can go to a quiet place if you both are introverts, like an art gallery or a museum, especially if both of you like to enjoy art.

• The most generic place to go to is the movies, if you both like to watch the same genre, or if there’s a movie you both are planning to watch, then go ahead watch it together, enjoy each other’s presence and this lifts the pressure of maintaining a conversation.

• What can be better than awesome food? Find a place according to the cuisines that you both like, Keep in mind to not choose a very expensive place. Look for a subtle place to eat where the ambiance is comfortable enough for both of you to talk.

• There can be a lot of places to take your date to like you both can go to a library if they’re into reading, Or you can go to a club or a bar if you’re party people and enjoy the nightlife.

• If you’re comfortable around the person you can even choose to go for a long ride together after having food.

What if, it’s a virtual date? How to interact during one? 

• Firstly, do not overdress, it’ll seem awkward if you’re too fancily dressed. Wear comfy clothes and make yourself look presentable but do not go overboard.

• You can have a long conversation with some snacks to munch on.

• Or if you both love the same type of music you can just listen to music together, or stream some videos or movies together.

• Binge-watch a Netflix show. Or have a cooking session while talking to each other.

The possibilities are endless. If you both feel comfortable around each other’s presence everything starts to flow effortlessly. 

Have fun with your date. Enjoy yourself, make jokes, lets your partner laugh and smile. First dates are all about creating a comfortable space so that you can coexist around each other without feeling awkward, as the process of getting to know each other is just starting. 

These were some tips, icebreakers, and ideas by us to make your first date a successful one, and we hope that you get to go on many dates with the person whose company is enjoyable to you.

First dates are after all just a way to test the waters, whether you are compatible or not. Listed above were various things you can talk about on a first date with your special someone. We hope we were able to help you in planning a perfect date and calming any anxious feelings.